Monday, September 11, 2006

on a day like today but in 2001...

The nation today marked the fifth anniversary of the Sept. 11, 2001, terrorist attacks, memorializing the nearly 3,000 people who died that day in solemn remembrances that included the ritual reading of victims' names at the sites of the attacks, public tributes to lost loved ones and private tears and grieving among those they left behind.

Monday, April 24, 2006

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heaven sent desserts- new dessert joint in the hillcrest/northpark area. DELICIOUS and creative sweets! The decor is very posh-and hillcrest typical in its hipness. a great addition to the areas now famous cafe colabria and claire de lune. We loved this place-i recommend it! (30th & university)

Tuesday, March 21, 2006

White Rainbow

I write to you all again about my beloved India! This time it is about an amazing film I recommend everyone to see. Dharlin Entertainment is planning a limited release of the film "White Rainbow" starting in April. Since they don't have the funds for a major publicity campaign, they are approaching this with a grass roots effort to spread the word. "White Rainbow" is Dharlin Entertainment's most aggressive production to date due to the nature of the film, which exposes the dire condition of India's widows. For my personal take on some of these issues, visit my post on GFX-- "Solace in Vrindavan"


"White Rainbow" is set to open on April 7th in San Jose, CA at the Camera

12 Cinemas.

"White Rainbow is the story of four remarkable women and their journey to overcome the societal stigma and grim reality of widowhood. Abandoned by their families, impoverished by a system that fails to recognize them, and denied even the most simple grace of wearing color, they find the resolve to transform their lives, and in doing so, the lives of Vrindavan's widows.

The story begins with the tragedy of the film’s protagonist and narrator, Priya. Upon learning of her husband’s sudden death, Priya miscarries her baby. Although her life is one of privilege and prestige, Priya's emotional and tragic catharsis compels her to make a pilgrimage to Vrindavan. Alone and desperate for solace, she befriends three women, all widows, and all with their own powerful and tragic stories to tell.

The elder streetwise, Roop, rejected by her own children and forced to make her way on the streets. Gentle Mala, disfigured by her mother-in-law, a servant and illicit lover to a priest. And young Deepti, widowed at age 15 and forced into prostitution.

Together, this disparate group challenges the myths and traditions that surround not only the treatment of widows in Indian society, but the widows' own resignation to their fate. And, in the process, their own transformation takes hold. No longer destined to a fate of poverty and servitude, the women emerge empowered with the belief that they are the champions of their own lives. The film inspires us all to see the Rainbow present in every woman." -(source) "White Rainbow Offical Movie Site"

BBC NEWS- "Film Highlights Widow's Plight"

By Anu Anand

BBC correspondent in Vrindavan, north India

9/9/2004

Five years ago, Indian director Deepa Mehta tried to make a film about the exploitation of widows. But she and her film crew were forced to quit after violent protests by Hindu leaders.Now, the spotlight is back on the ill-treatment of India's widows. A new film, by an Indian-American director, tells harrowing tales of sexual and physical abuse.

Harsh lives

In the fading light of afternoon, nearly 300 women sit chanting on the marble floor, their skeletal faces shrouded in white saris. It is the second shift in Vrindavan's largest widow ashram (religious retreat), some 200 kilometres east of the Indian capital Delhi. Many have been forced to shave their heads. All wear the color of grief, waiting for the day they too will follow their husbands into the afterlife. The women struggle to stay awake. But they must, because a shift here earns them one plate of rice and lentils, just enough to survive.Their story is now being told on-screen.

Film exposes reality

A new film called White Rainbows tells the story of four widows in Vrindavan - who were raped, disfigured and abandoned by their families. It is based on the real life story of Mohini Giri, today, India's leading advocate of widows' rights. She says the film tells the ugly truth. "The atrocities are manifold - one is due to hunger, the second - no shelter - they have to depend on men who in turn molest them or take advantage of their vulnerability and the third is illiteracy - they are not educated. "Not having these three things leaves them in a dismal state."

Dharan Mandrayar is the film's director. An Indian living in California, he says he was shocked to discover widows were still treated in such appalling manner. "It's unbelievable that families would abandon their mothers...that's why we decided to do this film. "We are hoping that even if it changes a couple of minds to do something or to help we have achieved something."

Forced out

Most widows I talked to said this was their fate. Anita Yadav is 29-years-old. After her husband died of alcohol poisoning, she too fled to Vrindavan with her three young children. "My brother in law kept trying to molest me. He'd come to my room again and again. I complained, but my in-laws took his side. "They said, either marry him, or get out." But Anita has found a rare sanctuary. She lives in a rescue mission run by Mohini Giri who has joined hands with Dharan Mandrayar to spread the film's message.

Here, the women wear colorful saris - red and green, white with purple polka dots - to reject the stigma of widowhood. They can pray or simply watch TV. These small freedoms are important. And after the violent opposition to the last film on widows in India, the making of White Rainbows alone is progress.

Story from BBC NEWS:
http://newsvote.bbc.co.uk/mpapps/pagetools/print/news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/south_asia/36118

Tuesday, March 07, 2006

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and so the new week begins...

Friday, March 03, 2006

Sunday, February 26, 2006

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it was time

Monday, February 20, 2006

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on the way to julian...SO cold!.

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haaaaa driving the boat.

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on a motorboat @ lake cuyamaca.

Thursday, February 02, 2006

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very myspace.

Thursday, January 26, 2006

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the best of bollywood music videos..in hindi mtv!

Sunday, January 22, 2006

haaa...compliments of Radhwan

Wednesday, January 11, 2006

...India

I know...about time huh? But my cell lost service in New Delhi, so I havent been able to upload images...

OK, So I finally brought myself to blog. I swear I didn't feel like retelling my story...I hadn't completely processed it yet...come to think of it, I dont think I really have quite now...

First impressions...India is, as many before me have said, and asault on all the senses. One of the reasons its so hard to explain is because you dont just 'visit' India, you 'Live' it..The plane ride was horrid..in transit for 2 days. We arrived in Bombay. Security checks-got felt up. haha..from Bombay we flew to our first stop in our Itenerary. Hyderabad, in South India...the place we stayed at, ICRISAT was an agricultural institute- a reasearch facility. Basically what they do there is use science to enhance crop life- ie. genetically enhance their ability to withstand plagues and thrive in harsh weather. "Science with a Human Face," using it more practically to meet the needs of the area. The facility is amazing. It is centered in thousands of acres of green land. aswell as shielded from the choas of the city. We were there for a week-the mind boggling contradictions began there. The contrast between posh urban hubs and the meager slums was amazing. on one side of the city you would see sky rises, technology, westernization-on the other hunger, people literally living on the side of the road, kids being bathed on the street. HUNGER...poverty.

While in hyderabad we did sight seeing ofcourse. The Charminar and Golconda Fort were the highlights, as you have seen on liliavilla.com. We did shopping, CRAZY haggleling, im quite good. haha..beautiful tapestries and crafts...colorful...saree shopping :) ...but we also did various seminars with the local universities, after all it is a womens studies course. The womens movement is vibrant in India. It was a pleasure to meet activists who are changing womens lives as we spoke. MANUU was our host, a university dedicated to reaching Muslim women, and preserving the Urdu language-spoken mostly by muslims in india, and the language of pakistan. The most heartfelt moment was when we visitied one of the villages where the women were taking charge and forming "federations" to problem-solve and improve conditions. the welcomed us with music..we had an open forum with them-exchanged questions. THEY WERE SOOOOO curious in our way of life. they asked us if we had husbands (lol), what we did for work, how womens conditions were in our country-they had no real geographic idea of where America was...but what hit home the most was when we met their children and a school. they asked us what kinds of crops do we grow. wow...they didnt want us to go, and kept asking us questions. they were all younger than 13yrs. very sweet. that day was new years eve, and they gave each of us a present they made. i got a necklace, and she said "wish you a happy new year," it was beautiful...the people were beautiful...it was a very emotional day for all of us..to see the kindness of a people who literally have nothing, so warm, friendly, and who gave us a little something to wish us a happy new year...

im in New Delhi...already went to the Taj Mahal..I will continue with this later..gotta go!!

life's got me thinking about alot of things..

Tuesday, January 03, 2006

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jenny trying on sarees...i did too..it was fun.

Monday, January 02, 2006

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the busy streets of hyderabad

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the charminar in hyderabad

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matilde and i going to charminar.

Sunday, January 01, 2006

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view from golconda fort.

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the goloconda fort in hyderabad..i climbed that bitch. 360 Steps.

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@the jung museum. aja with a child.